A Deep Dive Into Sex After Menopause


What should you expect sex to be like after menopause?

Often, many women worry about their sex life taking a dip as they near menopause, considering the symptoms of menopause that crop up as women approach that state of their life, or maybe even worse, they don't connect the changes to menopause and are unpleasantly surprised. 

Most women go through quite a few hormonal changes and begin to have  all sorts of questions running through their lives:

Will I ever have the drive I used to? Why does having sex hurt? Do my mood swings have anything to do with this? 

While these hormonal changes are certainly common, they are often very frustrating to the women going through it. 

You are approaching menopause, What then should you expect?

Painful sex- First, It is true that for some people, sex after menopause can be quite painful. 1 out of 4 women complain of painful sex as soon as they reach menopause.

As a woman enters menopause, As a result of menopause, her body normally produces less estrogen.  Without less estrogen, the vaginal lining weakens and could become extremely dry.  As a result of the thinning of the tissue inside the vagina, vaginal sex can sometimes become uncomfortable, leading to painful vaginal sex, also known as Dyspareunia

Your sex drive might take a dip

As many women approach and enter menopause, they begin to experience a decline in sex drive. 

They no longer feel the desire to have sex as often. Sometimes, the idea of sexual intercourse feels like more trouble than it’s worth for a variety of reasons. They would rather spend their time doing other things, and sex ends up taking a back seat to other important matters.

Interestingly, while some women approaching menopause or already going through menopause see a decrease in their sex drive, that is not the case at all.  

Rather than a decrease in the desire to have sexual intercourse, some women prefer  to engage in sexual activities even more frequently.  Most times, in this case, women whose sex drive increases during menopause used to have a low sex drive. Their sex drive only spikes up after entering menopause. While surprising, there's no need to panic either way.    

Vaginal dryness - Vaginal dryness, one of the common symptoms of menopause.  

1 out of 3 women experience vaginal dryness, this is a result of the decreased changes in their estrogen levels. Estrogen is the hormone that helps maintain the vagina’s lubrication, elasticity, and thickness. 

The vagina is more comfortable when the walls retain moisture, with a thin layer of clear fluid, but as a result of the drop in estrogen levels, the moisture available also decreases. 

Vagina dryness can be very uncomfortable. It can lead to a number of  irritating experiences such as burning 'down there', itching and painful sex. 

While vaginal dryness can be extremely uncomfortable, there are a number of options. Lubricants, which add moisture, can decrease discomfort during sexual intercourse. 

Packed with the finest natural ingredients, we created a luxurious formula that is safe and gentle and exceptionally long-lasting. Our lubricant Pods are designed to make your intimate experience more enjoyable.  You can check out our best-selling lubricants here

Still enjoying intimacy: 

For  some women, their sex drive is declining, but it doesn't have to mean end of their romantic lives. . 

Even if sexual activity doesn’t have the “excitement” it once had in years gone by, a woman can experience great intimacy, self-pleasure and connection with a partner. 


However, it is important to remember that one still has options. If self-lubrication doesn’t happen the way it used to, using a lubricant can help lessen the pain and the friction. 

For painful sex, you don't have to stop engaging in sexual intercourse or live with the pain. You can use lubrication and/or different kinds of intimate activities that don't involve penetrative vagina sex. Talk to your doctor about your symptoms if you need some more help with potential solutions, especially if using lube doesn’t seem to help.

To help you reduce the potential pain that might come with sexual intercourse OR to make your sex life enjoyable, we have designed several wonderful lubricant options that, when warmed, totally change the experience.  

Check out our lubricants Pods here  and make your sex life fun again.

Don’t Forget About Foreplay: 

Sometimes, foreplay works wonders to help with lubrication. If sexual intercourse is painful because of vaginal dryness, you might find that foreplay and oral sex could be more pleasurable than vaginal sex. Both can make you more comfortable with your partner or just by yourself. Remember, the key to a healthy sex life (at any age) is knowing and communicating what you like and don't like.

Final Thoughts: 

If you are entering menopause or have already gone through menopause, as soon as you notice changes that you don't enjoy or interfere with your pleasure, speak to your partner. Be prepared to use more lubrication to help deal with vaginal dryness.

Menopause should not be a hindrance to an exciting sex life with your partner. We are here for you and will stick by your side as you navigate this new change in your life.

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